One of the first matters you have to do deal with is the effect that divorce will have on your own life. You have to quickly come to terms with divorce, even if you are not sure that you want to. If you hang onto something that has died, you will find you are living with false hope. This will stop you from moving on. You are not going to be able to help your children with the effects of divorce if you cannot face it yourself. Though this is hard to do, you have to find a way to do it, and a way to do it quickly.

Child custody is often the biggest issue in a divorce but if you saw the 'War of the Roses' you know that the property division can take on ridiculous problems as the couples continue to fight the same battles from their marriage all through their divorce. A divorce attorney will have alot of experience dealing unemotionally with problems like this and you can benefit from taking their guidance. It's their job to fight for a fair divorce settlement that does not leave one of you on skid row and penalizes your children. Most divorce attorneys will involve you in a comprehensive plan for your case and then see to it that hte property division is done correctly.